Make yourself happy and content by giving. Please share your experience
of making yourself happy by giving (takes 5 mins and will help someone
else)...
Is pain and suffering almost always caused by selfish minds? It appears so.
That
appears to be one main cause of suffering as many people think they are
going without so take from others.Take a look at any selfish or
'evil'/'bad' person. They are always selfish and dont realise that they
could give others happiness if they took time to step back and look at
their life. Instead they think there is no time to look at their life
(takes 5 minutes) so miss the chance to make their life happy and
content.
I keep forgetting to appreciate what i have and keep
getting wound up by life's little problems based around things like my
Career.
All of these anxieties come from comparing myself to others
so it is inevitable that i am unhappy at least 50% of the time as i
(and everyone else) expects to be getting at least above average out of
life if not to at least 90%! (meaning i am unhappy 90% of the time!!!).
Several
different people suggested going for a walk whenever I feel bad (which
works amazingly) and also to look on life not as a task but as a 'once
in a lifetime' opportunity to see how many other people we can help and
make happy. After all if you make someone else happy it makes you feel
good so that can only be good. One other way is to look back at the
simple things in life that I HAVE rather than look forward at the
things i think i want. When i forget to appreciate these things i look
up a video of someone who does not have one of these or try to find
someone in the street who is missing one of these and try to help them
a little. Below is a list of these things (if you cant do one move on
to the next please)...
I can Breathe (breath in and out 10 times
slowly concentrating on the air flowing into and out of your lounges)
[hold your breath for a bit]
I can Touch (move one part of your body very slowly and concentrate on the sense) [sit still then move a tiny part of your body]
I can See (look at one small object or your hand and enjoy being able to see this) [close then open your eyes]
I can Hear (close your eyes and listen to the quietest sounds and enjoy them) [put your fingers in your ears;p]
I can Smell (breath in slowly through your nose and see what you can smell) [breath in through your mouth then nose]
I can Taste (What does your mouth taste like, the air or your skin?) [Eat something tasty]
I
can Give (find someone who needs something and give it to them...Hug,
Kiss...) [Dont forget to give yourself something too by hugging others]
Do
you know any other ways to remind yourself to control your EGO so you
stop thinking about yourself and concentrate on helping others who are
less (and more) fortunate than you are? Please share this information
and any other ways to enjoy life (no matter how obvious) to
http://www.FREEHUG.org
We are also looking for people to collaborate on this project. Are you interested?
Books
that give lots of great advice on this are listed below as are lots of
GREAT TED talks which explain about the benefits of selflessness (it
makes YOU happy:) plus lots of free books can be downloaded from
Project Gutenberg htt://www.gutenberg.org/
